How 3 Simple Questions Can Change Your Perspective

Recently I stumbled across Proverbs 19:21 that says, “You can make many plans, but the Lord’s purpose will prevail.” Before I could even finish reading the verse I was struck with the truth of these words. My “plan A” seems to have turned into “plan C, D, and E”. But does that really mean I have “missed it”?


This week I have been asking myself some pretty tough questions. I feel as if I am the sum total of failed plans. From my college major choices to my first career path, everything seems to have been met with closed doors that left me in a pile of ashes on the floor.

Feeling scared, unsure and vulnerable I decided to see if I was alone in my feelings. So I did what every sane person decides to do…I asked Facebook. I threw out the question, “Are you living the life you planned”? In a place filled with epic vacation pictures and soap box political rants, I found something beautiful and encouraging. I found others who felt the same way I did. Lost. Unsure. Scared. But moving forward.

The Conversation

The comments starting coming in, most admitting they felt they were on plan C, D, or even double R. Once again I realized the truth of Proverbs 19:21. We all had made our plans, but God was doing something bigger in us than what we understood. Even if it was messy.

Then, one of my friends, Priscilla Smith, made a comment that really got me thinking. She said,

“I think my idea of the plan has evolved over time. Plan A is usually the “nothing goes wrong” plan, but life isn’t like that. It’s messy. It’s heartbreaking. And due to a decision made by others or ourselves, plan A becomes plan b, c, d…but I know, without a doubt, I’m living the life I want to live. Basically, it comes down to your perspective.”

Her words hit me hard, especially the last part. I had been spending so much of my time trying to get plan A to work that I was missing something that desperately needed to change. My perspective… 


As I sat there thinking I asked myself three questions that really helped me begin to shift my perspective from forcing my plan A through to embracing the adventurous journey of what might feel like plan B, C, or D. Here are those questions:

  1. What can I learn? What lessons can I learn when I look at where I am compared to where I feel I should be. What is really going on? How can I shift my perspective to see what is good in my life and not just looking at how my plan hasn’t worked. Stop and ponder what you can learn from your current circumstances today.
  2. What can I see? I’m always amazed at how whenever I stop and take my life inventory how blurry my vision has become. Too often I start looking at what is around me. Seeing the pressing issues and not the important parts. Whenever I do this my perspective drastically shifts and I lose who I am and where I am going. That is why it is so important to ask yourself what you see.
  3. What can you change? This is the most frustrating question you can ask yourself. Why? Because no matter what the situation might be, you are the only thing you can change. You can’t change other’s decisions. Other’s perception of the story. All you can change is you and your perspective. So ask yourself, what can you really change?
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Moving Forward

When you feel that plan A isn’t working out. That you have lost your way and you’re not sure where you are headed. Remember that a simple shift in your perspective can change everything. When the bottom drops out of your life be sure and take the time to ask yourself these three simple questions to help you find new peace and perspective.

Question: Are you living your plan A or does it feel like plan B, C, or RR? 



  1. Love this! Thanks for the great reminder! I love having the power to change my perspective. This is really the only thing I have control over. When my life’s circumstances are filtered through Jesus, they get a much better hue of life and peace.

    1. Completely agree Erin. It’s amazing how much power we have that we often lose sight of and miss. And I’ve found that when I can stop and offer it to Him, fresh perspective comes quickly. Thanks for taking the time to read this. Glad it was a great reminder for you.

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