What To Do When You Feel Like You’ve Missed Your Mark

There’s a theme that runs through my life where I constantly find myself wondering if I will ever “get there”. The feeling that success is just beyond my reach and I have missed the mark. Although this feeling is a regular occurrence, I was challenged to rethink this idea through a highly unlikely source.

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There I was, my finger hovering just above the confirm button on my iPhone. I wasn’t sure what to do, but curiosity had gotten the best of me and I wanted to see what this little adventure brought me. After a few moments of uncertainty, I decided to go for it.

I confirmed Facebook Memory notifications… 

Do you have this set up on your phone? You know, the reminder that shows you what you posted on that exact day the last few years.

So over the past few months, I have received a notification every day showing me what crazy idea I had posted the year(s) before. Most of the time it’s a post about what I’m eating for lunch. Or more recently pictures of my daughter Story.

Then one came up the other day that made my jaw drop.

Didn’t See That Coming

This time, it was a reminder of a note that I had posted on Facebook two year prior. I had totally forgotten about it. So once again my curiosity peeked, so I read it.

Here’s what I wrote.

So tonight I found myself watching Dateline about a guy who prides himself on hanging out with wild bears at his home in Alaska. For the sake of my really bad memory, we will call him Jim. Jim is a retired school teacher who moved to the outskirts of Anchorage to live with these bears, even though he has no formal training and didn’t have any idea how to get close to them. Well, to make a long story short, seventy-year-old Jim has now seen six generations of bears through his back yard and is still going strong.


As I watched in total amazement (probably because I want to hug a bear so bad it’s ridiculous) the thought hit me…Jim spent most of his life teaching school, he didn’t just graduate from High School and go directly into the “wild bear hanging out business”. He had a life in something else before he ever came to accomplish what he is known for the most today. 


So as I pondered this thought I began to think about my life and how I have hopes and dreams to do big things that impact the world in a transforming way. I realized that even when I don’t feel like the picture I have painted in my head is coming true, there is still so much more that could be done later on. I don’t have to feel like I must conquer the world before I’m 29 or I’m going to put on the shelf and never thought of, or used again.


There is so much time for me to see my dreams come true, or for me to do huge things for God. I can’t get carried away or lose hope in the picture I have painted in my head. When I forget, all I must do is remember Jim. Jim was seventy when he mastered what we know him for today, so what makes me think that I have to do it all so fast? I must keep hope and focus on what God has placed inside of my heart, and not get discouraged when I don’t see it come true today.


What about you? Do you need to remember Jim and become confident in the fact that there can be so much more accomplished in the future? We just have to remember to embrace today in order to get there tomorrow! Just think about it…you have time!


Thanks, Jim…

Exactly What I Needed

This reminder couldn’t have come at a better time. A few days earlier I sat on my couch at home, starring off into space wondering if I had “missed the mark”. My thoughts were telling me to give up trying. That my dreams would never come true. I was too old. Too weak.

A few days later this “memory” of Jim came across my notifications. As I read my own words I was reminded that it’s never too late. I chance down my dreams no matter what. The only thing stopping me from moving forward was own self-doubt. My own negative thinking. My own fear.

What About You

What about you? Can you relate to that feeling? That you missed it. Maybe you feel too old or not smart enough. Maybe you feel your gifts don’t allow you to create your ideal outcome. I get it…me too.

But what would happen if we allow Jim’s story to inspire us? To allow ourselves to see that it’s never too late. Even if we have built our whole life in one specific area, we can still create something new.

Let’s think about it. What if we begin to chase our dreams without hesitancy? What would that look like? Do you believe that it’s possible? I believe so.

Are you in?

Question: Have you ever felt you have missed the mark? What did you do with that feeling? 


1 comment

  1. Personally I don’t ever remember a time that I thought I had “missed the mark” other than for a few minutes of self-doubt (which is probably common in a lot of people).

    With that being said, I am rather young and maybe that’s why. But with this post, I can surely avoid any self-doubt that I am running out of time just by remembering Jim’s story.

    The simple fact that their is always a tomorrow and all it can take is one day for everything to change completely. If you go to sleep un-satisfied just remember that tomorrow morning is an entirely new day and it is up to you to do what you need to do (lots of to’s and do’s there). Just never forget this; don’t let yourself go to sleep feeling that way 2 nights in a row.

    Awesome story once again, Darren!

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