How To Rethink Your Pain

Let’s face it. Life is tough. It beats us up and leaves us for dead. Just when we think we are safe another wave knocks us down and sends us into a tailspin. It’s really easy to get upset and stop trying. But we can’t give up. There is too much at stake. Plus it’s possible we can find a purpose to our pain.

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In previous posts, I have alluded to some pain I have experienced this last year. Real tragedy that has caused ups and downs on the road of life, not to mention my own creativity. This has caused me to second guess who I am as a person, as well as what I contribute to the world. Who I was created to be.


Broken trust.

The loss of a dream.

All of this has caused more pain than I can bear. Although you don’t know all of the ins and outs of my story I want you to hear from me that if you are hurting, I understand. Your pain real. It hurts. It’s not fair and if I had the ability I would take it away. Let me say it this way.

“Me too.”

Sometimes the best thing for us is to know that someone else understands. It doesn’t take it away, but it’s good to know you’re not alone. So today as you carry the weight of your suffering, just know that someone else is saying “me too”.

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If you’re like me you would do anything to make it all go away. You kick and scream and shake your fist at the sky. You see no reason. No purpose to the amount of pain you are experiencing. It’s hard and it’s not fair. But what if we could see our pain in a different way? What if there was something we could learn from all of this pain?

Well, I believe there is.

It doesn’t take the pain away, it just helps us to see it through a different lens. One that takes our it and gives it purpose.This year I have tried my best (not always succeeding) to see my pain in a way that brings meaning to it. I mean there has to be some value to all of the hurt, right? It might sound crazy, but it might help you as well.

Try seeing your situation as a way to bring purpose to your pain and not just make you suffer.

Here are a few ways your pain has a purpose.

1. It Moves Us

Often, deep down inside, we know that we are not where we need to be. Something isn’t sitting right with us, yet we don’t know what to do about it. We are here and want/need to get there. But how? Tough situations that cause us pain is one way to get us there. When unexpected tragedy or brokenness happens to us it often moves us from where we are to where we need to be. It isn’t always a fun experience. Pain rarely is. But we tend to get us where we need to be. Pain moves us.

2. It Changes Us

When gold is melted down all of the impurities rise to the top. It’s only when the heat is applied that the impurities can begin to rise to the surface to be removed. When the fire of life begins to heat us up the same principle is applied. We become different. We change. Pain is a way we become better versions of ourselves. Maybe one we didn’t know was there. It’s not fun, but it works.

3. It Protects Us

In life, it is really easy to get stuck. Complacent. Allowing ourselves to let life happen to us instead of happening to life. Day after day we just keep doing the same old things. Then “life” comes along and it moves us. That is where our pain protecting us. It gets us to think differently and see the world through a new lens. Yes, it can jade us, but it can also protect us from staying in the same place and never moving forward. It protects us from ourselves.

4. It Reminds Us

Have you ever felt lost? Wondering why you are doing what you are doing. It all seems pointless. Meaningless. It’s safe to say we’ve all been there. This is when pain can help remind us of our why. Why we desire to create art or concur certain goals. Although I don’t wish pain upon anyone, it’s often the very tool used to remind us of why we have this longing for more. Our pain reminds us of our why.

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Hopefully as you read through these ideas it helps change your perspective just enough to see some kind of purpose to your pain. But let me just say this. Just because pain can help us doesn’t mean that it’s fun. Also, please hear me say I’m not trying to make light of horrific experiences that many people face each day. I just hope to offer a new way to seeing the unfortunate pain in life.

Trust me, I’ve been there. You are not alone in your pain. In fact, you can actually grow through it if you let it. It’s not easy, but you can. Just remember…

“Me too”.

Question: Have you gone through a painful experience that has left your better? How do you view that situation today compared to when you were in the middle of it?


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